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Originally posted by thesweetestone
How is it their obligation to pay to in your F@%&in' wedding? My thought is if you can't afford to have the type of wedding of your dream then have the wedding you can afford. Recognize that it is out of kindness not obligation if the bridesmaids pay for their own attire. Yes, it is an honor to be ask to be in a friends wedding. But if, that friend is broke they need to check their attitude and be thankful that they have people willing to help them.
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WHOA.....
Anyway
MY experience has been that bridesmaids/groomsmen pay for their own attire. That being said, it should be made CLEAR at the beginning who is paying for what. Brides should be sensitive to their bridesmaids financial situation and plan accordingly. tHis could be anything from paying for the dress/shoes, etc., to not picking their "dream" bridesmaid dress, but a less expensive version.
Just like when you joined your sorority you realized there were certain financial obligations that went along with with, bridesmaids should realize there are financial obligations as well. As someone else stated, if you do not feel it is your responsibility, don't have the money, what ever to being in someone's wedding. Don't accept.
I see it like a wedding gift. You are not obligated to acknowledge anyone's wedding/marriage in any way: don't have to send a gift, buy a card, nothing. BUT, if you agree to participate in the wedding by witnessing the ceremony and going to the reception, do the appropriate thing and buy a gift (off the registry please!)
Back to the orginal question...
I believe someone else already said it, but the bride should offer to pay for them, but the bridesmaid should not ask. Matter of fact, if I was the bridesmaid and my friend offered, Iw ould probably say you have enough on your plate, don't worry about it!