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My goodness - sweetestone, if you dont want to pay for it, dont do it then?
I can't wait until my friends start getting married, and yeah, I'm sure everyone has whined a time or two about having to pay for a dress and I probably will too, but it's the fact that not only are you there, showing your love, friendship, and support for your friend for this milestone in his/her life, but that your friend loves you and picked you out of all the other people in their life to be one of the ones to stand with them. It's more than just a ceremony, or a dress, it IS an honor, and a true sign of respect and love between two friends.
and it IS customary for the bridal party to pay for their own dresses, by the way sweetestone, not the other way around.
i mean, i've been invited to formals and proms before, and I've bought dresses for those, even though for some of them the date is just a friend, or I dont know anyone else there. i mean, i think we've all shelled out money on things that have no *direct* benefit to us... but weddings are meaningful and memorable in other ways.
but as for this situation, i dont know... it's tough. calling off a wedding IS traumatic. but at the same time, if she was seeing someone else and having doubts for a while... eek. I would hope the bride would *offer* to pay, but who knows? it's a tough call. i know i would never ask...
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