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Originally posted by sphinxpoet
But the reality is that most of our "succesful Black men" are marrying Pookie and dem! LOL but we are losing focus of the topic I always find it intersting when we ask why women do A the answer is because men do B! ie why do Women date Thugs. One answer cause the Succesful men date white women.
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I hope NO ONE takes offense at what I am about to say
The reality of it is this...
for me, when attending school, I didn't see the brothas who were "in school" or in a trade (because college is not for everyone) that were interested in sistas. I am sorry, but that's my experience. So yes, I believe your statistics but success is not always measured by the $100K plus salary one makes.
Why did I date thugs, because that was my reality. I didn't choose my friends based on "what they could do for me in the future $$$" but how they treated me as a person.
My husband is a former thug, but he stepped up before we became married and decided that he wanted to do the right thing and not jeopardize his/mine/family life aanymore, and I give him credit for that. I don't knock anyone for their hustle. Nor do I promote "thug mentality."
I think brickhouse 492 states it eloquently that with a thug, there are risks, however, being with a thug doesn't symbolize that a woman will be physically abused by him (but that's another issue), but yes, there are deadly risks involved with the game.