[lovelyivy84]

Originally posted by djjukebox
*NOW LADIES .. FOR THE "QUES"tion of the day*

Why is it that the sorry, drug dealing, loser, wannabe thug can get a strong woman to stand by his side and put up with his garbage/cheating/and leaching ways, but the ambitious entrepreneur with aspirations of going to law school and starting his own corporation who is working two/three jobs but doesn't have the fly whip on spinnin' 20's cause he's investing in his future trying to better himself can't find a woman to even go get a cup of coffee with? Or better yet, have a Sister stand by his side while he's building his lagacy?

I would answer but I really don't know. I have NEVER been interested even remotely in that type of man.

That said, just beause a brotha sounds real good on paper and is doing all the right things doesn't mean that there will be a spark. For ME there has to be a challenge on the mental level. He has to get my humour, dish it out as well as take it, and be able to KEEP UP!

A lot of the brothas I meet who are lovely, upright respectful young men are dead boring and waaaaay too satisfied with themselves. Many of them can ONLY talk about the work they do, as if they think that's the only thing going on in their lives that could POSSIBLY interest me. I sincerely hope for their sake that it's not! I mean be proud of your accomplishments, but have a sense of humor about it all too- taking yourself TOO seriously is a real turn off for me.

And that's not even touching the physical level.