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First off, I'm not saying only GeekyPenguin's chapter made bad membership selection decisions. Yes, it happens often, but only by improving on those criteria can we recruit better women. I also agree that rush is a whirlwind, but that is all the more reason to be careful in membership selection. You can argue all you want, and yes, it's a problem for all sororities, but EVERYONE needs to do this.

Secondly, I didn't blame GeekyPenguin for not helping someone. As a matter of fact, I didn't even see the bit in her post about having a similar situation at her school until about 10 minutes ago. And I'm not saying that the chapter needs to have an 80 person intervention. ALL campuses have counseling centers and such to help students in bad situations, and they can also help members in dealing with this sort of thing.

In rereading my own words, I said that I didn't mean GeekyPenguin personally, but all of us in general, and I also said that WE need to be responsible for those we call our sister. Maybe you missed that.

When I look back on WHY I joined my sorority, I can honestly say I joined to meet new people and have a good time. What I got and continue to get out of it as a volunteer for my international organization is MUCH more.

I commend you Dancindeac for posting your story. I hope your story ends happily for all involved. My comments are in no way directed at you or ANYONE else personally, but are made generally.