[DeltAlum]

Meghan,

It was good of you to post, especially considering that we, as individuals and as a group, have both agreed and disagreed with you. The tone of your post reflects a very mature attitude, and I enjoyed reading your comments and commend you for them.

I must point out, though, that while you are correct in saying that there may be no chapter that is perfect, and does not break some rules or the law -- that doesn't change the dynamics.

Unfortunately, the law is the law. When a chapter breaks the law, it puts everyone in the chapter organization, their parents and their Nationals at risk.

It is my unfortunate conclusion (posted many times before), that it is the "everybody does it" attitude that may foster the final downfall of the Greek System as we know it. I pray that I'm wrong. I fervently wish that things could be dialed back to the way things were when I pledged in the mid 60's -- before the huge lawsuits became the norm instead of the unusual. When the drinking age was 18. When our actions weren't always so serious.

In my final analysis, the members of your chapter chose your own course in a number of ways. That happens in business on a more personal basis when a person decides to disagree with a boss or department head and loses his or her job. Been there/done that at an earlier age. I would love to say that I was so right that I would take the same path today. Unfortunatly, I wouldn't. Whether I was right or wrong, I handled it incorrectly. I don't know whether you did or not -- but I do know that your chapter openly broke the rules and laws -- admitted it -- and said you would continue the practice.

This is a straightforward reading on my part, and is not meant to point directly at you personally (consider that word to the the generic "you" meaning the entire chapter, please).

There is never a single side to any human dynamic, and I'm sure that there were actions from Chi Omega Nationals that seem wrong to you. It wouldn't be fair, though, for them to treat you differently from the rest of the sorority.

In the end, unfortunately, all the two groups could agree on was to disagree.

That's too bad.

I wish you and your chapter the best of luck in the future.