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"I've been gone for a minute now I'm back with the jump-off."
Maybe its time for me to offer my perspective on this. Honestly, I can see both sides of the situation.
Some Black Women do give black men an extremely hard time when it comes to relationships. Some Brothers have to jump through a helluva lot of hoops loops and garbage to even get some sort of response out of you guys sometimes. We understand you've been hurt, we understand you are probably skeptical of our motives, but the fact of the matter is ALL BLACK MEN ARE NOT THE SAME! We are not all out to get your money/sex/your car/life/(fill in any other idea you may have). We do not all have secret lives filled with other women/men/kids/families. We are not all Dogs/H%#s/Trifling/ No Good/Dirty Bastards. Alot of us genuinely want someone to love/cherish/kiss/hold/caress/believe in/support/treat like a queen.
Alot of the grief we catch comes from experiences that you've had in the past. Musiq hit the nail on the head when he said "I'm not to blame/for the pain/that was caused/by previous cats/who had your heart before me/"
I know it is very hard to get over someone that did you DIRTY (Believe ME I KNOW), but the solution to that problem is not making the next man pay for that man's mistakes. One foul turn DOES NOT DESERVE ANOTHER! Thats part of that baggage that some black women have been said to carry around. When you carry so much baggage it only serves to slow you down and hold you back.
Now, thats not to say that we as brothers aren't at fault to a certain degree. Alot of the $hit talking is warranted . . . . . IN SOME CASES. Alot of Men ARE WOMANIZERS. Some of us are TRIFLING. Many of us are unmotivated, shiftless, sorry negroes with no ambition or drive to do anything other than sit on our collective A$$e$ and talk about women/cars/Playstation 2/women/sex/weed/liquor/did I mention women?/draws/"the man"/Music Videos/women/Trina's A$$/their "glory days"/throwback jerseys/and . . . . . women. STOP BEING TRIFLING PEOPLE! Its time for us all to grow up. The reason they call it "game" and people "players" is because everybody is playing. GROW UP PEOPLE!
*NOW LADIES .. FOR THE "QUES"tion of the day*
Why is it that the sorry, drug dealing, loser, wannabe thug can get a strong woman to stand by his side and put up with his garbage/cheating/and leaching ways, but the ambitious entrepreneur with aspirations of going to law school and starting his own corporation who is working two/three jobs but doesn't have the fly whip on spinnin' 20's cause he's investing in his future trying to better himself can't find a woman to even go get a cup of coffee with? Or better yet, have a Sister stand by his side while he's building his lagacy? Ladies, tell me how this sounds? *these are just situations that are out there.. Nothing I've written is 100% how it is.*
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