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Originally posted by navane
Ok, I can respect that you disagree with one of the options I offered. Frankly, I'm of the opinion that a PNAM should be able to look at as many groups as wants/needs until she finds that place where she knows she is home - even if she has to do it simultaneously. Why? My AI journey has been unusual and I have sympathy on others who have unusual circumstances as well. It's not a matter of desperation, it's a matter of finding your sisters.
The reason I suggested the total honesty approach is because:
a) I'm a goodie-two-shoes and I don't believe in lying.
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Kelly, please re-read my post: here is what I said:
"If you want to check both groups out then use the discreet approach instead of the total honesty approach --
I am not saying to lie
but I would not volunteer that you are looking at two groups..."
I just think discretion is the better part of valor.
I know every PNAM's situation is different and some may know exactly what GLO they want to pursue while others want to shop around...that is fine..but I cannot help my own personal feelings on this matter: when I get actively involved in helping a PNAM to become a Gamma Phi Beta AI, I want to be absolutely certain she is serious and committed...I do not get warm fuzzies and assurances if I find out a PNAM is actively checking out other GLO's...by the way, anyone - esp several GCer's here -- can tell you that when I get actively involved, alum initiation WILL and DOES happen and that I will do whatever is necessary (and legal!!) to ensure it happens...the process on the alum sponsor's part takes time and commitment which I am not willing to expend if a PNAM is just shopping around and not certain she wants Gamma Phi Beta...
...anyways, this is just me...sorry if I have offended you Kelly...I did not intend to do that by any means...I truly admire your dedicated AI search and I frankly wish you had chosen Gamma Phi Beta!
