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Originally posted by Eastcoast Sunshine
I am an old-fashioned gal and shy, so I usually wait for him to make the first move. If we are in an awkward place where there is the possibility that I might not see him again, then I will make a strong hint that I'm attracted to him and if he doesn't catch on to it, then I'll let him know.
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My usual rule of thumb is the above, particularly b/c I am shy in that sense. I ONCE tried making the first move and was disappointed with the result
so I told myself that I would NEVER make the first move again unless I knew the person was feeling me. In this situation, I am glad that I at least tried though, b/c now I know for sure that it's his loss though and that we just weren't right for each other. I feel bad sometimes when I do this b/c I know that brothers don't like to get turned down also, but at least they are more used to it than me...
But, sometimes when I observe others, speceifically when I know that both people are feeling each other but don't make the first move b/c they "aren't sure" (i.e. didn't hear it from the "horse's mouth"), I see that they are missing out on something they could have had, even if they ended up w/ a close friendship after the relationship...So, I feel like sometimes it pays to make that first move (I'm just NOT the one to do it
).