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Old 09-08-2003, 07:05 PM
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Re: Interracial dating question

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Originally posted by Dionysus
Why are there so many black male/white female and White male/Asian female couples?......opposed to the other way around.
I suspect that this is an American-specific phenomenon. When I lived in and traveled around Europe, the white male/black female combination was the one I saw the most--I rarely, if ever, saw any black males with anyone other than black females. I've heard it's the same in Canada.

I don't believe that about Asian females being subservient, either. Filipina women (especially mothers) DON'T PLAY. I do know, however, that the stereotype of Asian women as being docile is what inspired many American (black and white) servicemen to take Japanese (after WWII), Korean, and Vietnamese wives. There was a series of interviews of American servicemen, and they basically admitted to this--keep in mind, this was a different time, so puh-lease don't shoot the messenger.

I do believe that there is more pressure on young black women to date and marry black men than there may be in other racial groups; there may be a sense of "letting the family down" if she decides to date or marry outside of her race. I know I felt this pressure, not from my parents but peripheral relatives and family friends. In talking to black male friends, that same pressure wasn't there for them, but was for their sisters.

Also--the issue of having to deal with tensions in the workplace could be a HUGE factor. In a conversation I had with my (bio) sister, she said that she was actually surprised that I was dating Mr Munch, since I've had to deal with so many negative situations in academia and the workplace with white men.

So, I don't know what to say. All I know is that I found MY Lloyd Dobler. Papa Munchkin treats me like a Princess, and Mr Munch treats me like a Queen. If you've got it like that, does color really matter?
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