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Something else - (at least on my campus) Most PNMs who are juniors, who have low grades, who are married, etc etc EXPECT to be cut fairly heavily. I did. Yes, it felt good when I was told by people on GC that any chapter would be proud to have me for a sister, (and you know what? Had they extended me a bid, they would have been.) I valued the encouragement (overboard or not) from the women here on GC so much more than ya'll will ever know, but I knew that the people who ultimately decided if I had a home somewhere I loved were the active sorority women on my campus. Problems come when campuses and sorority members tell us PNMs not to worry about being cut, that it's all about choosing a chapter where we fit. How much better preparation for the PNMs would it be to say, "Mutual selection means that you may be cut, you may cut them, and nothing is guaranteed. Recruitment is a blast, you will meet women that you absolutely love, but it is nerve wracking and filled with uncertainty." Not in those words, probably, but you get the idea.

Here's the way I knew that I was about to be cut: Whenever I walked out of a door that I wasn't going to be invited to come back through, I heard, "Have a good week." I never heard it if I was invited back.

PNM's, just practice some common sense - bids come from the women on your campus, not women on a message board, (unless they are from your campus...) Keep an open mind, but if you would rather not be Greek than be in a certain chapter, choose to be independent or seek other options and be proud of your decision, not pouty. Graciousness is a good thing! Rush is so much fun if you let it be and take the time to relax and get to know people, if for nothing else, the sake of knowing them.