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Originally posted by DST Love:
Maybe we're different than most, but my boyfriend and I had been established what we can deal with from each other and what drives us crazy. We concluded that anything that drives us crazy is something we've learned or know how to deal with and it's not anything that would make one of us leave. We've been together for quite a while (don't even want to say how long). So maybe that's why. The longer you're together, the more you start to understand the other's personality, needs, wants, mood, etc. And the more you start to anticipate the other's reaction in good and bad situations. I guess if you just date someone a year or so prior to marriage, you may not know because you may not have encountered a lot with that person.
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Also we've always spent about five days out of the week together. We are each other's best friends. And I think when you build a deep friendship, all of that driving each other crazy just doesn't matter. I think about how when the NBA playoffs first started and we spent all day Saturday and Sunday chillin' in our sweats eating junk food. We've learned that if one of us irks the other, then one of us will go in the other room (be it at his house or mine) and watch some TV alone. A few minutes later, everything's peachy-keen. You're always gonna drive each other crazy at points. Hell, my own family will drive me crazy. But if you'd rather have that person in your life than not (meaning most of your thoughts of that person are always good, happy ones), then you learn how to adjust a little. That's life. My boyfriend's mother told him that his father gets on her nerves sometimes but that if you 'like' the person, not just 'love' them, then it makes it easier to deal with. Like I always say, love is the easy part of the relationship. Or as Chris Rock said, 'You have to love the crust' of someone. And that comes through a deep friendship outside of being in love with one another.
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#10 Sigma (Clark Atlanta University) Spring 1999
Currently: MAL, Southern Region
[This message has been edited by DST Love (edited June 14, 2001).]