What do you all think about being friends with your mate before marriage? Would that enable you to know that persons heart well enough before marriage?
It seems to me that by living with each other, you live under an aire of a "just in case" attitude...it breeds a great deal of pre-marital scepticism. If you're friends with someone, it would seem that even if you get married and it doesn't quite turn out peachy-keen, that because of the VOW taken, that the couple would be committed to working that thang out. To me, that rids of the pre-marital scepticism...knowing that we're trusting that the vow was serious, that our love means more than petty stuff...we're building this thang together!
[This message has been edited by nikki25 (edited June 14, 2001).]
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