I agree with ya Chakalate i can relate totally. I was called "black" so many times i thought that was my name. I've been discriminated against by other blacks far more then by whites. The question is who is continuing to perpetuate these negative stereotypes about darker skinned women? I think many of us play a role in this. Of course the white man started the division but many blacks continue to feed on it. How many dark skinned sistas only date light skinned men (is that a problem?), or how many grandparents treat lighter skinned grandchildren better then darker ones (it happened in my family, what does that teach us). For a long time i didn't want my daughter to be dark skinned not because i think its unattractive, but because i didn't want her (doesn't exist yet
) to be treated like i have been as a darker sista by some ignorant black people. (maybe some brothers feel the same way and are trying to lighter their family tree, lets just be real, you don't know why someone chooses to date a particular type of person. I can't tell you how many brothers i've seen with white women who are far from being beautiful, but these brothers are attracted to thier white skin. White or anything close to it is still the overwhelming symbol of beauty in this country, its up to us not buy into it. A brother told me that his mom would not appreciate him bringing home a dark sista into their creole family (now what is that all about). Its all in perception. Light skin does not spell beauty, nor does dark skin spell ugly. Its just that everyone has a preference which is fine. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. Sistas (light and dark) we have to teach our children to appreciate all types of beauty not just the carbon copy we see in the media (and many are beautiful). And lets STOP comparing Black Women to one another we are all so different. Some "Black Women" are not all black, they are mixed and therefore will reflect that part of their ancestry as well, so how can we compare an all black woman to a half asian woman you can't, they are both beautiful but in different ways with different physical make ups, that's one of the problems comparing apples and oranges and saying one is better then the other. I think the one drop of black blood philosophy should be squashed forever because it is just not helping us at all, if anything it divides us into the little racial subgroups, each trying to out do the other. And we can't really expect someone to understand how we are treated as darker sistas when they have a totally different experience. But i found my self esteem in God's word that states that i am made in his image and i am fearfully and wonderfully made, that a woman's beauty should not come from her outward adornment but from a quiet and gentle spirit found within. From a dark sista whose daughters may come out light skinned or dark skinned beautiful any which way.
ps don't like Cita, enough said.