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Originally posted by jess_pom
I asked her last night why I couldn't go along, and she didn't really give me an answer.
We are pretty close, and I was not upset she didn't ask me to be her moh. But we've gone dress shopping before, and I was really hurt that the day she went to finalize her choice, I wasn't allowed to go. I think it had more to do with my mother not wanting me to go, she feels the need to be in ultimate control and doesn't like opinions that differ from hers.
As for comments I would make, lets just say that I would rather have me there than my mother. She would (loudly) point out any physical flaws without thinking of the effects, you know?
Oh well, it's over and done with. But I'm still really hurt.
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Hey Jess,
It might have been your mother that really didn't want you along. Don't take that the wrong way but you pointed out she wants to be in ultimate control. Way too many mothers seem to forget this is the daughters wedding and not hers and will make try to make the choices and decisions for her. Your sister may not have wanted to deal with your mom or you getting in to arguments and decided to pick your mom to go with you rather then you because you would understand why she had to do it.
I'm not married yet but I've been in enough weddings. Ladies let me warn you, the quickest way to run a friendship is to agree to be in a wedding. Everyone seems to forget this is the brides wedding and it is all about her. I have seen maids of honor and bridesmaids pitch hissy fits because they didn't like something. Guess what, live with it, if it's going to make the bride happy what concern of it is yours. You can do what you want when you plan your wedding.
Jess, just be there for your sister, especially as it gets closer to the big day. She's probably going to have your mom, her future mother in law, the maid of honor, close friends, etc trying to push her into doing things that she may not have wanted. Just remind everyone that is your sisters day and she can do what she wants. Your sister will be forever thankful to you for it.
LITP,
Carolyn