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Originally posted by AllWoman
I signed up with a different screen name to post this. I am a regular poster on GC and didn't want to come out with this to everyone.
I have had an abortion. I was 19 and the man was a close friend of mine. We had just gone through a tramatic experience together, and we were very emotional. So while we were consoling each other one night, we began to kiss and one thing led to another. I was on the pill, he used a condom, and yet four weeks later, I found out I was with child.
I was devastated. My parents did not know that I had ever been with a man at all, and yet this had happened. I called him and his exact words were "well, what are you going to do? and before you decide let me just tell you, if you choose to have this child I will not be there, I will pay child support, but I will not help you raise it. And remember you will be ruining that childs life, my life and your life."
That is what I had to hear before I made a HUGE decision.
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Allwoman--
Firstly, I am truly supportive of your choice you made in your life. I am sure that it was one of the toughest decisions you have EVER had to make...
Secondly, NEVER EVER be ashamed of what has happened in your life and the choices you had to make at the given time--at least YOU HAD THE CHOICE TO EVEN MAKE!!! Some women NEVER get that chance--much less their choices get made for them...
Lastly, the man who impregnated you is an a$$wipe regardless of how you BOTH came around to getting you pregnant. That is my opinion. Given ALL that you were going through, how the HELL is he going to say some crap he said to you--yeah, you'd ruin your life--whatever!!! So, what's that supposed to mean?? WTF!!! So, the feelings that you had are nothing but "ruined"???
That's what bothers me--it like, OH, so like it was okay that y'all slept together, but the repercussions of that one night were too much for him to bear now??? Bullisht!!!
I'da tell 'em BE A MAN and STEP UP!!!
IT HAS ALWAYS TAKEN
2 TO TANGO--SINCE THE DAWN OF SEXUAL REPRODUCTION IN EITHER RELIGIOUS CONVICTION OR EVOLUTION!!!
And for the other ladies under similar circumstances, let me ask you this:
Are all guys buttholes when you have to tell them the consequences of both of your actions?
'Cuz I'm seeing a little trend here and to me, IMO, it's foul!!!