[The Grapist]

Originally posted by AKA_Monet
Have you or do you have children? If yes, then were these children a "planned" pregnancy? If unplanned, what made you feel the need to "stay" with the woman and be a father to your children?

I ask, because I want to try to understand what goes through a man's mind when he finds out he has just impregnanted a woman that he is not 1) married to, 2) did not want a relationship with or 3) does not want children--ever.

Your observations sound reasonable to me. The fact is, no matter what, you are connected with this "woman" who you got "caught-up" and your genetic material is perpetually passed on and running around for the REST of your natural life...

Many women just cannot bear the look on their "man's" face when it must be told to the guy, that "suprise" you are going to be a father--most especially the pregnancy was unplanned and/or unwanted... I know, that if I was not in a stable, marital relationship and I had gotten pregnant and had to tell some of the fools I was dating, that after all the tears, I just would not want the ultimate in rejection for a man to be pissed off with me because I am carrying something he helped to create...

But then, again, that's a societal "implant" that all of us have been taught under a Judao-Christian control media...

Some women with alternative thinking come with the idea that children are a gift of the Spirit, that all life is blessed and sacred. To remove that blessing, depends upon the spirit of that blessing--for that matter a curse... Remember Hagar--and the Earthly Jeruselam... Ultimately, if one believes in a God and understands the Universe in its totality, then don't you all think that God can stop all things from occuring in the first place??? Have some faith...

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