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My heart is breaking for you. Go buy the book Love Languages. Buy two copies - I've know this book to be used in premarital counseling for several good friends, my brother, and I've read it as well. I've b roken an engagement before because the guy wouldn't hold a job and showed signs of being abusive, and the aftermath of that was still awful, but it's so much better than if I had married the guy. If you love this guy, are committed to him, and it's a prioritizing issue, this can be solved. My advice is to pray continuously, not take over spiritual leadership (even if he is not stepping up to the plate), and go for the counseling. I definitely agree with "better a broken engagement than a broken home". If you can get issues and priorities right now, and be happy with the man that you've chosen, praise God! You're in my prayers!