Unless, you have begun the process of becoming a member, I don't see the big deal. You made a faux pas...YOU LACKED DISCRETION. And now you have to deal with the repercussions.
However, you are not the first person to THINK a particular Sorority is for you, but upon closer examination it appears you don't feel connected for fundamental reasons. I agree with my Sister greeks that a few members do not necessarily represent the total organization...but they are a reflection.
I do believe the real argument is are you making an informed decision? I encourage all woman seeking sorority membership to check out all of the organizations and then make a decision.
Afterall, not every young lady can or should be a Finer Woman of Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated.
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Originally posted by SoulSista:
What do you do when you think you were interested in a certain sorority and after meeting with members and started to make your interest known, you really didn't find anything in common with the members of that chapter?
I made my interest known to a particular sorority but all the members are just catty. They are very standoffish, they don't do anything for the community, and they are just not a group of women I feel I am compatible with.
Now, a friend of mine who is in a different sorority, invited me to one of their functions and my experience was the total opposite. These ladies kept it real, they were down to earth, they do for the community on the undergraduate and graduate level and they talked to me with respect - woman to woman. Not like, "I'm above you and I have something you want." So what to do? I thought my interest was one place, but now, I'm feeling so much love from the other organization and I feel more in tune with their morals and ideals.
How would you (sorority members) feel if you an individual approached you and you knew that she showed interest in one sorority but is now looking at yours? Would you welcome her or would you shun her away? What if all her qualifications and everything was in order but she just made a mistake and thought something was in her heart and it wasn't?
This is so hard for me. Don't know what to do. 
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[This message has been edited by Finer Woman10-A-91 (edited September 15, 2000).]