SoulSista, I see it like this. The first thing you should do is think about your reasons for wanting to join the sorority you were originally intersted in. Was it because you REALLY felt like it was the right one for you? Did you feel you had a lot in common with the ladies of the organization as far as sharing similar goals and interests?
OR were you
interested for all the wrong reasons?
I personally know of a young lady who was introduced to Greek life by someone she considered a mentor who just happened to be a member of XYZ sorority. Everyone this member introduced her to was a member of XYZ and they were all biased as far as telling her how they're sorority was
thee sorority to join. Her best friend, who she has been inseperable with for years, is seeking membership into XYZ sorority...all her other friends are interested in XYZ sorority. So naturally (and being a bit naieve)...this young lady decides that XYZ sorority is the one for her. She doesn't even
CONSIDER researching the other BGLOs, let alone actually attending their functions so that she may find out how they operate and what they're all about. so she goes to some of XYZ functions, activities, etc. but she never really felt it was what was right for
HER. It's never in her heart. She finally decides she wants to do what she feels
she should do. So she finally takes the time to research ALL of the sororities. After she does this she finally finds one that she feels is right for her...one that she's right for. It is only now that she can
honestly answer the infamous question "Why do you want to be a member of this sorority?" Before, when she was blindly following "the pack", she had to literally practice what her reply would be if that particular question was asked. (and it was always some rehearsed, well scripted, answer) Why? Because she had
no ideawhy she wanted to be a member of XYZ!
But if you ask her now, be it morning, noon, or night, why she wants to be a member of ABC sorority...you couldn't shut her up
. And her response comes from the heart now, not from something she thinks the members want to hear. And believe me, from all the smart comments and ribbing she's getting from her friends and mentor (She's mostly referred to now as "the trader" or comments are made such as "If you ever make it as a member of ABC sorority, don't come in my house wearing those colors" OR when someone asks "So, are all of you ladies trying to join XYZ sorority?" the infamous "All, but
this one over here. We don't know what went wrong with her...we're still trying to work on her though. She's trying to stray, but we're hoping she comes to her senses.")... she's still not budging, her mind is made up.She's a pretty strong minded individual that has finally come into her own. So if this is similar to your reason for changing your mind, then I am feeling you sis. Now, if you were truly interested in that first sorority and you decided to pursue the next one just because the girls in that particular chapter are "catty" as you put it...then I, personally, don't think that's a good enough reason to give up something that is in your heart and you really want. I'd say stick to it. Don't let the actions of a few individuals let you lose focus on the sorority as a whole. Like AKA2D'91 mentioned, there could very well be ladies in the other sorority that act just as "catty" or even worse. Then what will you do? Try the next one? See the point? I think if you really pray on it, you will be shown what's best for you...maybe it's XYZ sorority, maybe it's ABC sorority, maybe it's sorority QRS...God will help steer you in the right direction girl!
[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited September 13, 2000).]
[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited September 13, 2000).]
[This message has been edited by Sexy Mocha (edited September 13, 2000).]