Hey Pam - I have been reading your thread (whenever I am able to get on the internet!) and crossing my fingers for you every step of the way - now to know that AXO is in your heart, makes me ache for you even more! Any chapter would be lucky to have you, and if they can't see that, then they are missing out!! This ESPECIALLY goes for AXO!
Having gone through many recruitment sessions, I can tell you that I always tell them not to discount the older girls -- yes, having freshmen is better for longevity with the chapter, but they often lack the maturity and grace that they need to be responsible!!
I pledged as a junior, and have been WAY more active for the Fraternity through my alum status than any freshman
Don't discount snaps or COB's -- or informal recruitment if chapter's on campus offer it. It doesn't mean they pity you, or are less desirable chapters - it means that they saw something special in you, and you can be just what they need to get some new energy sparked!!
Regardless of how it works out in the end, you are a trooper and you have done no shame to yourself or to us - you only make us believe more strongly that saying "no" automatically to juniors isn't always a smart move! Best wishes to you always!!!