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Originally posted by Ginger
This is EXACTLY the problem. Marriage doesn't mean anything to people anymore. Marriage is for LIFE. I'm not even religious (I believe in God, but I'm not a member of any particular religion), so it's not that I'm against it because of the bible or whatnot.
My problem with legalizing gay marriage is that people don't value what marriage is anymore. I am getting married in a year and my future husband and I have discussed that we will be married for LIFE.... come what may, divorce is not an option. It is simply not. Even if, heaven forbid, we become morbidly unhappy - we have made our vows and those vows are to work it out. Both of my parents were divorced before they met each other, and remarried to have me. Both of them say that while they are much happier in their second marriage (yay for parents who love each other!!) that they are very guilty over breaking their vows and that they should not have married their first spouses. They taught me to value the vows I will say in front of the Justice of the Peace, and that they are not vows that can be broken.
If we're going to teach children (and adults) to learn to respect the meaning of what marriage is, we need to set limits on who can be married. Marriage is between a man and a woman who love one another and plan to spend their life together. Marriage is not between me and my brother, or me and my sorority sister. I may love them, and want to have them in my life forever, but marriage is not the venue for that. There are other ways to express that love... and it's not through marriage.
edited to add: I'm sure I'm going to get flamed for this.... so flame on. I'm going to be away from the computer until tomorrow morning, so I'll reply to all RESPECTFUL questions/discussion then. I'm not going to reply to flames.
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While I understand your comments, this is not what
I meant.
I'm never meant to say that a homosexual couple would take their vows any more or any less seriously than the next heterosexual couple. My problem with marriage is that there are far too many people entering so lightly into a union that once was supposed to be till death do you part. Now it's until I get bored of you or something better comes along. In fact I believe that it is heterosexual couples that have made the mockery of "marriage".
I believe that if a homosexual couple is truely prepared to spend the rest of their lives together, then let them. They're not hurting anyone. If two people truely love each other and are willing to make that lifetime commitment, then I would like to see that happen. I DO NOT want to see a heterosexual couple get married because that what they think they're supposed to do.
P.S Sistermadly I think that's so cool that you were married by a lesbian feminist Buddhist
P.P.S OUlioness I want to wish your Dad and his partner all the happiness in the world.