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[QUOTE]Originally posted by De6
I keep talking about this,because I am sure that anyone can testify that talking to others and getting their views gives you a sense of release.I truly thank you all for your concerns and I will try to make this post understandable,so that you all can see how I feel.

Have you heard the phrase "you're hearing but not listening?" You contradict yourself when you don't get the answers you want to hear/read. You ask for opinions, the grown folks give you life lessons, then all of a sudden we don't understand your plight, then you brush it off by saying well God will take care of it all. As RD stated, Let go and let God. He knows your situation and the things you aren't telling us. Let Him handle it all.

There is NOone that can tell me that when their parents told them that they had to pay a bill,they leaped off the walls with joy. It took sometime to adjust to,you probably felt like,this is MY money...why am I paying bills.After awhile it has set in,okay they are trying to teach me something.Okay,that is how I felt at first and last year and this year I have tried to deal with it...I knew that I had to contribute to the house.But,when you start trying to make me feel guilty about NOT giving you money,I have a problem. I did NOT tell you to go gamble.

My advice to you is to get on your own as quickly as possible, then you can deal with your own bills guilt free, problem free, with your new bank account.

Most of you are in the REAL world,bills,bills,bills and I thank you for the advice,because there might have been something I was missing.

There is a lot you're missing, but you're young so that's understandable. You have much to learn. Enjoy what you have now because there's more to being an adult than what meets the eye. You won't know how to be an adult until you become independent. In the real world, no one cares if you take care of your responsibillities, you will just be kicked out in the streets.

This will be my last year in high school,saying that should let you all know what type of expenses I have.But just in case some of you do NOT remember the cost of senior year I am going to remind you.I have to get school supplies(the basics),I HAVE to pay my senior dues($125.00),I have to get clothes and shoes,I have to prepare for homecoming,I have to save for my class ring,I have to prepare for prom,I have to prepare for this Fashionetta,and there are other expenses(we might have a class trip).

Now you partially told us how your family was and how your money is limited. Part of being an adult is learning priorities. All those school expenses you listed aren't mandatory, but see that's your youth speaking. You can't switch from a child one day and an adult the next. When you're an adult on a budget sometimes that vacation has to be put on hold or those new clothes, or that jewlery. See where I'm going? You think high school is expensive? Wait until you get to college and you have one book that cost 100.00 and you need two books for that class alone. If high school senior dues are getting you down, college expenses will tear you up. Just wait, it's coming.

Do you all now understand how I feel and why I keep
responding.I enjoy reading the responses of others
(epecially the Christians),it gives me a chance to search
myself and really seek God on things that you see,that I don't.

Don't take my responses or other's as being harsh. We're being real. We're in the real world tackling real life issues. Just wait 10 years down the line, you will look back at this and wish you had this little problem to deal with. When you're an adult, sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do....like get up and go to work everyday, get along with a supervisor you may not necessarily like but you suck it up and keep moving. It's a whole new world when you're grown and you can't take your ball and bike and go home. You gotta deal with it. God bless you sister that you gain understanding and wisdom.