[breathesgelatin]

There is a fine line between being positive and encouraging, and spreading false hope. It's always appropriate to say things like "We are thinking of you/Best wishes/Good luck/Do your best/We hope all goes well/Enjoy yourself" but statements like "It will be fine/Don't worry about XXX (ie rush mishap-grade problem-junior status-etc)/Any chapter would be proud to have you" are more problematic. I think that we should be here to support and provide honest info to the PNMs. But there is a careful line to be walked. Sometimes I see GC users basically 'oral bidding' PNMs that they don't know and may not even be going to their group! I think we should all be cautious, but positive.

It's a difficult issue, too, because all of our recruitments are different. All of them require different things and the chapters are looking for different things. PNMs have to be savvy too--unless they're accepting advice from a member of an actual collegiate chapter (presumably before recruitment begins!) where they're rushing, the advice may or may not be totally accurate.

I do however, have a bit of a problem with GC users who continue to post in rush-related forums when there is a PNM who is going through at their college. I've only seen that happen a few times, but it seems like a pretty clear recruitment violation to me.

Edited to add: PreppyGirl, I have a sneaking suspicion that you're from my chapter. This is Susan!!