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Maybe it's just me, but I also think that we need to be careful about the expectations we encourage the pnms to have for pref night and recruitment in general. I never had the sudden overwhelming feeling that I found my home during recruitment week. I think that a lot of pnms are expecting to feel that way and think that they may not have found their perfect house unless they do... I knew that Pi Phi was the house for me, but it didn't really feel like *home* until later (way after recruitment) when I had established friendships and trust with my sisters. I'm sure that some people get that feeling much sooner, but I just want to let the pnms know that even if you don't, it doesn't mean that you aren't meant to be at that house!
Sidenote: When did I really feel like Pi Phi was my home?? When I was moving into the house at the beginning of my sophomore year, realizing how much I missed my sisters all summer and wondering how I made it so long without them! (We have deferred recruitment, so I had been initiated for about six months.) I probably felt like Pi Phi was my home much earlier, but I didn't actually get that *aha!* feeling until then!
Sorry this is so long and confusing! It's hard to write when you're at work!!
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