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I don't think it's necessary to hide all the drama from PNMs. When they go through recruitment, let them know about all the good stuff. Tell them about your friendships, your mixers, your philanthropies, etc. Everyone wants to hear about all the good times the sisters have. But also let them know, that like life, nothing is perfect. Yes there may be times that you are frustrated with your chapter. There may be times when things get very stressful (like recruitment), and things are not always a bowl full of cherries. Tell them that not everyone will get along, and even though that some may not get along, you all try to be respectful of one another. I think it's ridiculous to think that just because you're sisters that everything is sunshine and roses. That's not the way things work in real life. Now, you don't have to go into detail, ie. Sister Susie is a b**** and she slept with Sister Samantha's man and now we all hate her and if you join our house you have to hate her too, and we want her disaffiliate, etc, etc. No one needs to hear about that. But I don't think it's a problem to say, yeah we have our problems every now and then, and we all do our best to try to work them out in a civil manner. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
I don't think that there are too many naieve PNMs that will be going through recruitment thinking that all the houses are drama free, just because you're not discussing the problems with them.
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