[KDShan]

So I'm 'one of those' pregnant sisters. At least I was, my son is now 3 years old. I found out I was pregnant in Nov of my junior year (actually the morning of my 21st birthday). My sisters were some of the first people to know that I was pregnant (my boyfriend had just left the week before for flight school). Before even telling most of the chapter (I had the 4 girls who knew sworn that they wouldn't tell-everyone just thought that I was very very sick b/c of my morning sickness). At Thanksgiving I discussed my options with my parents. I decided that I was going to transfer to a college closer to home, and live with my parents-to save money for the baby (kids are EXPENSIVE!). I decided that I would go Alumna, in order to remain a Kappa Delta. My sisters were amazingly supportive. I announced my pregnancy to the chapter in a pinning circle type ceremony (you should have seen the looks on their faces) and I had the best baby shower (how many of you had a stripper at yours?).
As far as remaining active- I never even considered it. I would not be fair to my child, myself or my sisters. Financially- it would be impossible, time management-wise-again impossible. However, as an alumna I promptly joined an Alumnae Association and as soon as I was eligible I became a chapter advisor. My son has 125 adoring babysitters from the chapter I advise, a ton of 'aunts' from my chapter, and knows the Greek letters Kappa Delta on sight!
I love my sorority, but I love my son more. As a parent you must learn to prioritize, and putting anything before your child, means that your priorities are out of whack. That said, forcing a member to resign or go alumna is not very 'sisterly' that decision should be left up to the woman-however I would hope that she would choose wisely with her child's best interest at heart. By forcing a member to resign or go alum, an org may alienate taht member, thus loosing a potentially great alumna member/advisor/national officer.

edited to add: I transferred colleges, and lived with my parents. Had I transferred to a college with a greek system, and KD-I woulud not have affiliated with that chapter. I would still help the chapter out with recruitment and attend ritual events, but not date parties/socials/formals.