[kddani]

I really don't think that any NPC group has a national rule (and shouldn't have a local rule) that pregnant women must go alum or cannot join. That would VERY easily open them up to a lawsuit (not sure if it would be successful or not). Pregnancy discrimination occurs all the time in the workplace, and there's been more and more cases about it (only recently because of the change of women's status in the workplace over the past several decades).

I think a lot of it is the culture and attitude of the local chapter.

Bottom line is- if it's someone who's already your sister, I'd sure as all heck hope you'd continue to love and support her- she probably needs it more than most!
My personal feelings on the subject are like many of yours- your child should come first in your life, and sororities take a heck of a lot of time. BUT, it's also important for anyone to have a little bit of a life outside the child- it's good for you. There's arguements for each side.

Honestly- it could happen to any of you. The pill isn't 100%, condoms break, etc. Would you prefer the member to have an abortion (NOTE- this is not supporting nor going against abortion, just a note)? So it's easy to say you wouldn't want a pregnant woman in your chapter or someone who has kids, but you may change your tune if it happened to you. How would you feel if your sisters "kicked you out"? Many of us all aren't quite "pure as the driven snow"- it could easily happen to you or any of your sisters.

Just some general food for thought for everyone.