Been there done that. Do what you have to man. If it is ment for you to be with this woman, then the two of you will be together, and you will work through the adversity that being in a frat brings to a relationship. In some ways it puts you at a disadvantage becuase you will now have part of your time taken up by an entity that she already views as hostile, and believe me, there will be fights about your time, where you going, where you been, when you getting back, who you with, (forgive me, I am having flashbacks). Make sure that she and you are secure in your relationship and how you feel about each other. That will help with about 1/25 of the arguments that you will have.
Two questions that you should ask yourself are:
Is being in a frat worth you loosing her, but on the flip side, do you want to be with a woman who doesn't want you to follow your heart?
I am pretty sure that she loves you, and it is quite apparent that you love her. Try to explain to her that this is something that you really want to do, and I would hope that she would respect that.
If not, then that is a decision that you will have to make. But as someone who was in that same position, I had to do what I had to do.
Good luck, and I hope things work out for you.
Peace and Luv
MN
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