Hi ssh1980, I wanted to try and help you but did not want to keep posting stuff that has already been said.... so I decided to link you to a page where we just had this discussion.
http://www.glacierweb.com/home/view.cgi?sisterlyforum
or try this
http://sisterlyforum.freeservers.com/ and go to read daily post, scroll all the way down and read post going up. It tells a whole lot. But if you don't get there quick the post might get deleted off the page from space.... then e-mail me and I will TRY and reiterate what was said. And I think Soror AKAtude sums it up by saying you "legacy does not grant you automatic membership".
I hope this helps