Pachick...
In response to what you said about not liking your younger sisters...this reminds me of a brother I knew sometime ago, who, during his senior year, "burned out" on the fraternity. He was depressed, didn't want to be around the "young" guys, etc....
Myself (an alum at the time), and one of his closest friends in the chapter sat down to talk to him about his attitude - we were worried about him. His response was that he didn't see any reason for him to belong anymore - all the people that he looked up to when he joined had long since graduated and moved on. Now all that was left was him and a few others he considered "close" friends, and then the rest of the younger members, most of whom he didn't really know, nor did he like.
His friend said something that to this day I still remember. It was something to this effect: it may be true that the people who you admired and respected, and consequently made you want to join are no longer here, but, look around, there are 70 other brothers, many of whom joined because of YOU. You have taken the place of those you admired by the new members, they are not looking up to the same people you did, they are looking up to YOU.
Needless to say, this had a profound impact on him. He hadn't looked at the situation this way, and, he took it to heart, and became the mentor he should have - he left a lasting legacy on the chapter that continues to this day. He has since graduated and become a doctor, and many are following in his footsteps.
Hope this helps you - there may be other ways of looking at your situation...
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Don't be your brother's keeper; rather, be your brother's Brother.
[This message has been edited by LXAAlum (edited August 22, 2000).]
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