Girl, I totally understand your situation!!! (note my name)
I decided very recently that this just isn't for me anymore. I love the Greek system and I love the people I've met in the system, but it's just not what I expected when I went through rush. I feel cheated and led to believe my house was something it's not.
If you truly want out of your house, there are ways to do it. I don't care if your bylaws say you have to be a member regardless (been there, done that)... you could do what I did. I wrote to the national offices, to our regional advisors, to my sisters-- basically to everyone I could think of, and expressed my disappointment and my wish to be removed from the list of active members in the house. Although it was disappointing to both me and the members of my house, I'm turning in my pin at the first meeting of the school year.
Above all, no matter how much I believe the Greek system is VERY MUCH worth getting involved in and is such a wonderful experience and you get to meet new people, yada yada yada--- it is absolutely NOT worth it to stress yourself out over things that could cause damage to your academics or to your health, both of which happened to me.
I wish you the best and hope your heart tells you what the right decision is.
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