much respect...
hmmm...spinxpoet1 i agree that it is an age old accusation that folx "change" after they pledge. and although it hurts to hear it said...we can all agree that in some cases (all of the people around my age that i know "changed") it does happen.
for some the change is negative. i know a guy who i went to high school with. we were kind of in the same circle...the brainy, yearbook, newspaper, quiet group...he didn't have a date to prom and had a very small group of friends. we went to the same large state university. he pledged. and he "changed" a'ight. now that he had those letters he was an azzhole! and although he and i stayed relatively cool...i could not respect the way he treated others. maybe it was payback...but i often asked him did he remember what it was like to be kicked around. he did...and didn't care anymore now that he had his greeks.
okay on the other hand...i had a friend who was a jerk...plain and simple. but very popular with everyone...except for the folx she picked on. but she went to school...pledged...came back...and was this giving, loving, community-minded individual. she admitted pledging changed her life.
now on to aswering the question. i know that i would be more busy. but that is the moment when you have to remember that no matter what those letters on your chest don't add up to the years you spent loving your friends. so maybe...its just like getting a promotion and your friends don't...you make a little extra time to chill with them...and let them know...while i got a new fam over here...my partners will always be my fam!
peace
*sorry it was so long*
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