[erniegurl00]

Ok these are my thoughts on the situation.

You should do whatever you feel you can keep up with. This is the reason why a lot of campuses have deferred recruitment. This gives the PNM's time to adjust. However, your formal recruitment is in the fall. It will be an adjustment to get used to your new surroundings, classes, etc. But, I think your mom is right. Joining a house (or at least rushing) will help you meet people and adjust to the campus quicker and more easily. Also, from experience I'm going to say this. Don't go home a lot on weekends. This is sound advice I was given when I was a freshmen. I had a steady boyfriend who lived an hour away. My best friend at the time and roommate went home because she was homesick almost every weekend, and in the end she's still not totally adapted to college life. (And we're seniors now!) You're going to get homesick, but going home won't make it a lot better because more than likely it'll make it harder to go back. Again, this is said from experience. I know this is rambling, but I hope it makes some sense!

Maybe you could still go through recruitment and get a feel for sorority life. You could ask the sorority members and see how much of a committment pledging would be. I know I was a slightly busier when I was pledging, but it slowed down a bit once I was an active. You don't have to join a house if you go through recruitment.