[HotDamnImAPhiMu]

Just for the record, I didn't do anything to this guy except break up with him.

I certainly didn't cheat on him. Not sure if he actually thinks I cheated on him, because it occured to me that if a guy cheated on *me*, the last thing I'd do is try to keep in contact with him.

His e-mails and phone messages are really.... inflammatory. Do I continue to allow him to leave messages? I'd started picking up & hanging up when he called -- just so I woudln't have to hear the awful messages. Is that egging him on?

I did, though, block his e-mail and his IM. I'm kind of at a loss... he's in another city about 90 mi from me, so I don't think I'm actually at risk, it's more of just a harassment issue. I'm pretty good at keeping personal stuff personal, but people at my work are starting to ask me what's wrong, and it's affecting my new relationship because I'm so anxious all the time.