[shadokat]

I think that in every organization, there is a difference between a new member and a sister/brother. But to use wearing letters vs. not as way to draw that line just isn't even a big deal. The true "big deals" of all of our organizations are the values, principles and ritual through which we strive to lead our lives. Putting letters on a sweatshirt and putting them on your body does not make you a brother/sister. Learning your fraternity/sorority history, tradition, principles, et al., and incorporating them into the way you choose to live is what makes you a true brother or sister in that organization, and is why you have a common bond with those in your group. Because you all are striving for that ideal.