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Originally posted by Little32:
But what if they do? And it is acceptable? Then they come here and suddenly it is intolerable.
Now I am not talking about the interests who are just out and out disrespectful. You know the "you don't have anything to do with my process or my chances so I can say whatever I want", or the ones that come here to snap off because--for whatever reason--they feel wronged by your organization. (Do what you will with those.)
I refer to the ones that are new to the game, or might accidentally ask the wrong question, step on a lot of toes, and then seek only to defend themselves from the barrage of responses.
I am talking about the ones who are sincerely interested, not just seeking to start drama. Some folks just don't know, some folks don't even know how to get their foot in the door. And they come here to find out. And regardless of how "stupid" their question is, how inappropriate or arrogant, no one deserves to be treated with disrespect.
I was one of those folks and I am quite thankful for the internet. Just from coming to forums like this I have learned what I should and should not do. Much of that knowledge coming from the way that members respond to questions that I would--at one time--have been crazy enough and ill-informed enough to ask and, in sone cases, actually have asked, to people, in person. (When I did, the yound lady I was talking to was very polite in her response. She wasn't rude, dismissive, or ridiculing. And I really appreciated that.) There were many times, when I first started coming here, that I have winced when reading member responses to questions that I never knew you shouldn't ask.
Again, I understand that you are not obligated to SF's in any way shape or form, I am just trying to show you the other side of things.
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I KNOW the other side of things. I was there. I wasn't born with AKA stamped across my chest. So, I haven't forgotten.
My advice for the internet has always been to observe and when in doubt, don't ask or do it by private e-mail. I have also seen sisterfriends apologize for their ignorance in advance stating they aren't sure if the question is appropriate or not. However, some people try to use the "I'm ignorant" excuse to their advantage.
What do you mean by is it acceptable? If you are referring to their attitude, no it's not whether is in cyberspace or in person.
We have well over 14,000 posts on this forum alone. I'm sure that we have touched on just about every topic imaginable. So, coming in this late in the game there is a wealth of information to be had and mistakes to learn from.