I have to agree with lastpoet. Rudeness and disrespect occurs on both sides of the gate. (I see this in all of black greekkdom, not just AKA.)
I am not referring to the ladies that suggest SF's perform searches, visit the national website, or talk to members on there campuses when responding to some of the FAQ's that we see so often on this board. I am referring to the ones that respond with LMAO, no she didn't, WTH, etc...etc.... I think that the only way these responses can be taken as is rude. It sometimes seems that some forget the humility that they have been taught once they make it to the other side.
Sometimes the only way that people know how to deal with perceived hostility, is to become hostile and defensive in return. And it just starts an ugly cycle. Some SF's might not see there comments as disrespectful; they may just be trying to stand their ground, stick up for themselves and their beliefs, and show some spine. These are qualities that we see in the women that we wish to emulate. But there is a way to do it.
Also, many of this questions are posed by first time posters. I make it a habit to check the poster each time I run across one of these FAQ type posts, to see if s(he) is familiar. More often than not, s(he) is not. And while some of these questions might be the result of stupidity and audacity, most are simply the result of ignorance.
In those situations where boldness and disrespect are the culprits, I applauded those who break it down from these misguided posters. But I give a standing ovation to those who manage to do it, while maintaining decorum.
Solutions? Maybe a FAQ section on the board, somewhere where new posters can see it immediately.
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