There are no guidelines for how long a post should or shouldn't be. I've just noticed that your posts tend to be a bit lenghty.
The difference between being rude and constructive criticism depends on how you take it. Some people who ask questions are either bold or simply ignorant. Sometimes we make every attempt to be as polite as possible.
However, when you get someone that tries to ask the same question a dozen different ways thinking they will get a different answer or more information, it becomes annoying. Therefore, IMO you have to just "break it down" to them. If they or someone else sees that as being rude, then so be it. We are not obligated to give any information. Too often people think they are entitled to know.
Then, there are those people who are just sensitive. If you ask a question, then you run the risk of putting yourself out there. You can't read the tone in which the reply is meant, and sometimes things are taken the wrong way which causes the the person to become defensive.
Take Soror DG's post from yesterday regarding grammatical errors. I thought it was cute, but not everyone took it that way. They thought she was being "rude" or trying to "single them out". She was only trying to offer advice and be helpful. I think Ms_Thang has seen that and now understands the intent. It was simply what she perceived.
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