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Originally posted by Eirene_DGP
I felt horrible, I told him I was sorry for the loss, and I just sat there upset with myself for opening a fresh wound. Needless to say, I removed her name from the mailing and call list.
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You shouldn't have been upset with yourself...I can't speak for every family who has lost a child, but from my family's experience I can assure you that the wound was already open and the family is dealing with the loss 24/7. Don't feel bad for reminding the father, he never forgot. Ironically sometimes being forced to speak of the tragedy provides a release for the pain. When I was put in a situation where I had to inform someone of my sister's death, I felt worse for the person I was telling than I did for myself.
Shortly after my dad died, his fraternity phoned to request a donation. My mother was glad for the call, because it provided a means for her to communicate the sad news to his brothers. The gentleman who called seemed to know just what to say. I think she ended up sending a check--and his pin.
Bringing this back to the original, and somewhat lighter topic, keep in mind that employers realize that new hires have a lot to learn. Learn from your mistakes, and don't make the same mistake too often, and you'll be fine! Good luck!