[ZPhinestOne]

I just happened to stumble upon this thread and Ive amazingly read every comment because I am struggling with this very issue being that I will be my chapters president next year, and on the exec. board of our NPHC chapter. I have been racking my brain all summer trying to come up with ideas on how to not only revive the presence of my own org on my campus, but BGLO's as well.

im just going to break down my environment for y'all real quick just to give you an idea how bad it is in my area and at most the schools in my area.

xyz-suspended indefinitely
xyz-suspended-indefinitely
xyz-from 17 members down to 2 in 1 year
xyz-from 4 to 1 in 1 year

xyz-from 2 to 5 in one year
xyz-Suspended indefinitely
xyz-Been trying to reactivate for the last two years from a school near
xyz-2 to none in the last year
xyz-atleast 2 members every year

Latino/a GLO's-this school holds the most Alpha chapters for the most popular LGLO's. There intake is steady holding down 7-10 members at all times.

Now im not afraid to admit that sometimes we as BGLO's depending on chapter have lost focus and purpose, and just are not appealing to anyone in the true way we should be!

At my school right now GDI's are playing between org's, its not a
"let me try to strive for the org I have my heart set on" but a "I know the BGLO's are desperate for membership, and Im going to see which org spits the best game at me and I'll make my choice then." More so for the guys....they are leading members to believe they are interested in the org and at the same time in "secret talks" with another org at the same time. Then they begin the process for one and drop..and the next year they find out that ABC is trying to have a comeback line so they figure that they will hop on the ABC train to be on the jump off line! Or they are too busy trying to be thugs or which specifically in my school half the males are "eternals" and have bad mouthed the orgs so bad that overall reputation is just ruined.

personally im a bit of a PR agent and do my own research to find out whats really going on and why we arent as appealing anymore. Ive pretended not to be greek at times to get the real truth out of people. Ive heard things from..."who are they again?" to "I cant stand those b$%#hes."

At our school the orgs. that are available hold so many programs in a semester we have to fight with each other for dates..yet the only people that attend are nphc members and those 1 or two who have been really dedicated to pursuing membership into xyz. But bet come friday or saturday night everybody is at the xyz house for the party for the year.

its gotten so bad that I know for a fact that members from xyz will befriend a young man or woman for the first time or maybe after casual contact..the first thing out the members mouth is "how are your grades", not for the purpose of genuinly caring but rather "im going to convince you that you want to be in my org, if you have the grades".

Orgs have also resorted to intentionally pursuing someone they know has expressed interest solely in another org, sometimes being succesful....


...the top fraternity and sorority compete with each other for members, programs, popularity, kudos, etc...

And get this, when an org or NPHC or LGC (Latin Greek Council) has a party in our campus center, they designate a time for strolling because the GDI's complain and get mad cause they dont want us to stroll all night. In adition you cannot stroll at a non greek campus center party, which is a school rule. There has been times ive been strolling and females wlil mutter smart comments like, "I dont feel like looking at all these chicks all night, i wish they would stop".

So as you can see its pretty low and trust me im not exaggerating......you havent heard the half of it....

so my take on the whole thing is that society is changing and moving fast and we have not kept up with it. This is how it seem atleast in the north east, I'm sure the picture would present itslef differently in at the southern HBCU's.

Its hard to maintain your org when you are the only person in the chapter holding it down for your org the best you can. Its hard to be visible. Especially when GDI's know too much about what goes on within the org's because the word "discreete" has lost its meaning. Or when the whole campus knows that 13 girls are on for xyz and none of them cross and the chapter is suddenly suspended.....honestly if i were to be non greek right now i wouldnt join anything either.....some of the things ive seen across campuses would make anybody with common sense, use their common sense and stay the GDI that they are. And I would agree with anyone who said, it definitely matters where you are at, 'cause If I feel i cant work with you, I'll save my money wait 'til I graduate.

As BGLO's we should realize that all these problems are internal and we can only blame ourselves.

Stop frontin' like half your lines grades didnt drop! stop looking at females all crooked cause they seemed to be wearing too much of your sororities colors that day.
When your GDI friends say you changed, believe them 'cause you did, and now the only people you talk to are your sorors or frat!
Act like you know that your sorors/frat brought all their reputations from freshman year right into your org and now it reflects off the chapter!

Ive experienced some of these things through my own org and through friends I have in all the other orgs......it may not be your chapter, but im sure the one next door has some of these issues.

In order to live up to or legacy's given to us, how about we accept our shortcomings first so we can move on...work from the inside out .....

kind of like, as people we have to change on the inside to change the behavior on the outside.....

I think im done....hope I didnt offend anyone......