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Originally posted by AXPGoBot
Also what I think is f'ed up is this:
If a guy's at a party, hanging out, having a few drinks, enjoying himself, and this girl there that he sorta knows is obviously drunk, and keeps heavily flirting with him all night. The talk a bit, dance a bit, that sort of thing, and at some point she offers him to come back to her place. They end up having sex, the whole while neither one of them gives any indiciation that this isn't what they want. The next morning, the girl wakes up and realizes what she's done and regrets it. Maybe she had a boyfriend, maybe it was her first time, maybe she didn't want to do that with someone who was just her friend, whatever. Point being, even though she never said "no" she can take him to court, sue for rape and probably win, based on the fact that legally "a woman cannot give consent while under the influence of alochol." Now granted, maybe the guy should've used better judgement in not taking advantage of the girl, but if she was all over him, and he was attrated to her, and maybe had a few drinks himself and was facing impared judgement, it's really not that horrible an act when you think about it like that.
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Well if a woman cannot legally give consent when she is intoxicated, then neither can a man. Why doesn't this man file charges himself, saying that he was also raped.
ETA: I have more to say, and I don't want to make another post.
Anyhoo, whatever you want to call it, whether it be Rape or Sexual Assult, it's wrong. And it can happen to both men and women. I just think that this is a given. If at any time someone says no, you stop. The person who asked for it to stop, just might want to take a break or re-evaluate their decision. It may be after this 5 minutes that sex will continue. I just don't understand why this is a difficult concept for some people to grasp (not directed to anyone on this board-just a general comment), it's like when sex education teached you about good touch/bad touch. NO ALWAYS means NO.
Also, I read about this in my human sexuality class, but there is a school where(I want to say in Ohio but I'm not sure) that has made it law/rule (again not sure) that when a couple is being intimate they must ask permission before they do anything, and everything, just to be clear that consent was given. ie. "Can I kiss you? Can I touch you here? Can we have sex now? etc, etc. It sure puts a damper on things, but obviously this is what it has come to.
I don't know if my post made any sense, but I hope some of you understood what I was saying.