Two Words...."Bitch Session"
(and excuse my language, but you all know where I am coming from.
We are all women, and therefore, we all have personalities that must be contended with. sometimes you may not "like" someone, but if you just sit down and verbally express your feelings, you realize that things may not go as deep as they seem. I think that FIRST and foremost you should have an immediate bond with your "lSs" for the simple fact that you have a common goal to attain. Even if there was someone coming into the process that I sincerely disliked, I would definitely have to squash it (or try to at least) for the sake of the "sisterhood" and for the sake of making the "process" a whole heck of a lot easier on everybody. I am quite sure that the "process" is hectic enough without adding undue confusion, strife, and such.
Anyway, back to the original question, a "session" if handled correctly by MATURE people who sincerely have intentions of letting the animosity go, can be very cleansing and purging. Try to not just be accusatory like, "You are such a freeloader", but maybe like "I feel that sometimes, I have to pick of the slack from you guys, and that stresses me", or "I think that WE as a line aren't on top of our 'stuff' like we should be, so we need to take some extra time and study TOGETHER", or "I feel that WE as a group have some tension that's between us, and I just felt that since WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER, that we talk about it, and possibly ease each other's burdens." Anyway, sorry so long, but that's how I would go about it...if I were in that position.
Miss Moderator,
, I edited my post per your request, Sorry!
My two cents!!
[This message has been edited by onesavvydiva (edited March 04, 2001).]