[KappaKittyCat]

Ginger and Hootie, I totally agree about standards dropping. I waited for "the right person," the XBF, and then we broke up about three months afterwards. It was pretty disappointing and I went without for two years because I was single and thought that sex should be in a loving relationship. The loving relationship was not forthcoming (I've been flying solo for three years).

Then one night it just sort of happened. Just a random hook-up. (And yes, we were safe.) That's when I realized that sex only means what you want it to mean. For me there's the loving-relationship sex and the energy-release sex. I'm very careful when there's attraction on either end, because sex can be construed in so many different ways. But sometimes you just need a no-strings-attached fling. I'm choosey about that, too, but not as choosey as I am when considering potential significant other material.