[twinstars]

I think it makes sense to hold prospective partners to the same standards, whether they're #1 or #5 or whatever. It's up to the individual to decide how high the bar is set: do you need to be in love? etc. etc.

I don't understand the rationale behind making a huge deal out of who you choose to be your first, and then being much less picky about the ones that follow (if there are any). If sex was a really big deal in your eyes, then why would it be less of a big deal just because you've moved on to another relationship? Maybe it seems like a bigger deal than it is if you've never done it before...

I don't think I ever thought I would/should "wait"- I never considered virginity a big part of my identity- I just had sex when I was ready (in the case of each guy I've been with) and don't have regrets about anyone.