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Originally posted by lastpoetnsite:
for example someone who says:
"my mom (or dad as the case may be) was in XYZ organization so i want to be in it."
quite frankly if someone said that they would be looked at as if they were trying to use "legacy" as a foot in the door...instant blackball
on the other hand if they said this:
"my mom (or dad again as the case may be) is someone who i have admired all my life. she (he) has instilled in me the values of XYZ organization by helping me understand the strength of sisterhood (brotherhood), service to your fellow man, and having a conviction in what you believe in. because of that i have been interested in XYZ organization all of my life...."
now that is a piece of work. but it says the same thing...only prettier...my mom or dad was in the organization and now i want to be. same thing.
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IMO, your first example is simply stating that just because mama is an AKA I want it, too. If my mother decided to jump off a bridge and leap to her death, I'm not going to do it just because my mama did it.
If my mother were a doctor, would I choose to be one just because she is a doctor? Am I trying to make her happy by following in her footsteps? Or would I do it because she is making a good income? Or would I do it because I have seen her in the act of helping people?
The second statement gives some insight into the decision. It doesn't have to be fancy or "pretty", but I do expect a good reason.
I would hope that people who are interested in joining an organization realize that it is so much more than calls, hand signs, steppin', and strutting in 'nalia. Now, if that is the only things they are interested in, then I'm sure they will NOT let that be known and make up something "pretty" to mask their true intent.
Why would we want people like that? There is enough work to be done to go around. Everyone has to pull their own weight and contribute. If not, where would we be? What would be the purpose anymore?
I would hope that if I have a daughter some day, that I set a good example so that she will be inspired to follow in my footsteps. I want her to see me in action, not just being an inactive, t-shirt, letter-wearer.