much respect...
this question is str8 out of "As the Sands Burn" so i believe the obvious thing is that one must as buterscotch1 said ask to hold a chapter meeting and get things all out in the open.
have an all out b**chin session to make sure that the air is clear of all dissention.
the thing is if all of you are now "brothers or sisters" and you understand the true meaning of that in the context of your organization then there should not be a lingering atmosphere of "hating" on one another.
my questions, which might be the companions to the original are:
--what did this individual do to arouse the bitterness of all the members of their chapter?
--if that individual did something so horrendous that they are now scorned by the chapter how does that look to those on the outside looking in?
--finally, when its all said and done...the act of treason...or whatever this may be has happened...what does it say about the bond of sister/brotherhood if people are willing to be vicious and vindictive against one another?
the reality of all this is that someone might not want to call you brother or sister when its all over with. that is the shadiness of the individual. but the hope is that one can put all that aside and work towards the goal of the organization which is...serving the community.
if while we are cooking at Ronald McDonald House or cleaning up our highway we can talk and be civil and when we get on the yard we can respect one another then whether one choses to call each other brother and sister might be irrelevant in the larger scope of things because there are x thousands of other individuals who will be there for you in the long run.
i said all this to say.
if you are truly about the business of brother/sisterhood then no matter what the fault, indiscretion, or whatever the individuals involved will want to talk it out and reunite.
i hope i didn't disrespect.
peace
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