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First of all, sorry to hear about your situation. I know it's tough sometimes, but you have to think about yourself. You mentioned that this guy is 10 years older than you...I don't know how old you are, but I would put that into consideration. For instance, I am 23 years old, and I am just learning what I want and expect in a relationship. As you get older and mature, you change your perspective on life and how you want to spend it. And if you have been together for roughly two years, I am sure you are maturing in your part of the relationship. He is older than you, so he has already experienced much of what you are approaching. Therefore, it is really easy for him to tell you to calm down and that you are just overreacting. In a way, it's kind of like that parent thing--my parents always told me "you don't wanna do that" but I had to learn from my mistakes to realize it myself. Anyway, your situation really reminds me of one of my friends who was dating someone 10 years older. She was 22, he was 32. He bought her a car and always told her what she did and didn't want to do. It really irritated her and they eventually broke up because he wouldn't let her develop into who she was becoming.
So, in my opinion, if you are going to break up with him, don't write him a letter. Return the car to him and thank him for his generiousity (sp?). Let him know that you need to let yourself become who you are and you can't follow under his wing. He's supposed to be your boyfriend, not your father. I am sure he will argue with you and try to convince you that you really don't want to do this. But stand firm in your decision and tell him you are not backing down. Just imagine this, if he can convince and control you now, how would it be if you were married? You never know, you two might have some time away from the relationship and wind up together in the end. Time for yourself is always good.
Oh, and I am not saying that relationships with an older person don't work. I was just expressing my thoughts on how people need to grow and find themselves before they can truely be happy in any relationship. Hope this helps. PM me if you want to.
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