Steve Madden shoes? Required? Not that they're not adorable, but if that's a requirement of membership, that does price PNMs out of joining.
My favorite rushee apparel story ... this girl came to third party in jeans and a t-shirt, and not even a cute nice one. She said she wouldn't dress up for sorority events, because she didn't think it was worth it - but she would if we had XYZ sorority on our campus! Needless to say, she was not invited back to pref, and she didn't join anywhere.