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Wednesday, I was at a luncheon. We started talking about recs and things when a similar situation came up. At least I see some parallels.
Some girls from HS were late in registering with the PanHell Alum Assoc. and I was trying to find them recs. One lady said, "Yeah, ABC-her own sorority mind you-isn't too good..." I found myself defending her own GLO telling her that they have had two strong rushes in a row and the membership was well liked on campus.
Another lady said, "My chapter of XYZ was really strong when I was active, but they have lost some of their standing on campus." Again, I wanted to set it straight so I told her,"Did you know your chapter's assessment was Gold while QRS is silver and you guys have made quota plus for the past 3 or 4 years?" (I couldn't remember it exactly) In each incident, these ladies were apologizing for some PERCEIVED weakness-like it made THEM look bad-when they didn't even know what the situation was.
This type of attitude especially from an ALUM does so much harm.
What if they said that to me when my daughter was rushing...I might have been influenced and tell her..."Blow off XYZ and QRS because their own alum say they are crummy." You would NEVER hear some of the other GLO's alum say ANYTHING less than, "Oh, MY chapter is very exclusive." Or "My chapter has been prominant on campus since it's founding." If I were to make a guess pertaining to your situation, in HER mind, her chapter may be on a higher social strata than your chapter and she wants to make sure everyone knows how "special" she is.
When anyone, alum or active, associated with a particular GLO bashes another chapter in their org, the ripple effect can be more far reaching than they realize. What would you think if it was ABC saying these things about XYZ? How much worse is it when it's a SISTER!!! I honestly think this should be addressed and Leslie is right, IMO, go to the advisor.
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